Okay Wow it has been too long since my last post. I have reasons I promise.
First I didnt have enough to say for a blog, then I wasn't inspired to write which if you really know me is a problem I face a lot. I love writing but I love writing eloquently. I love to write scripts, stories and this blog but not the same old drab every time so I put off writing it. Then of course life had to step in the way and say ha, effectively taking the time away from me to write. Sure I could have written some but it would have been short burst and all I really wanted to do was lay around as much as possible. See I had surgery to remove 2 of 4 lumps in my left breast. I am fine and they were found to be benign fibroadenomas. They plan to watch the other two lumps.
This was necessary for me to have done because they were large and very painful. But I think they were good for Addie's and my relationship as well. It tested us and we came through swimmingly. See last time I had lumps removed a few years ago I depended on my sister and mom to keep me calm and it went well but this time was much better. Addie really helped me stay calm enough that I was able to get an IV without freaking out she held my hand and talked to me and just reminded me that no matter what happened she was there for me. It was so good to know that I had someone who wasn't family and wasn't required to be there for me but someone who wanted to be there for me because that person loved me without question. I know that when we have kids, if I do get pregnant one day - she will be my Rock in that situation just as she was in this situation and is in our lives everyday. This experience was also good for us in another situation. She had to trust my mom to take good care of me and trust me not to push the limits. I had to trust her to remain cool and not worry about me to the point of it affecting her final semester of school or her work life. We came through those challenges as well, not without a few arguments about not letting her know I was okay and me feeling like an invalid. But at the end of it all we were able to talk these out and I really think we are closer because of the whole experience. It allowed us to see other sides of each other. I love her so much and can not wait until our vows.
So now onto what you really came to read about - the wedding. We have gotten what seems like alot to us done. We have also come across a few problems. First the problems: one of Addie's bridesmaids has backed out for unknown reasons and left a hole in her side of the wedding party. We have found a replacement luckily in our friend Dren barring any complications that could come up with travel plans. Secondly, Addie's adoptive parents have put their foot down and will not be attending the wedding going as far as to say they do not even want an invite. We are sending one anyway so they can not hold it against us in 20 years or whenever. Thirdly her biological mother who we wanted to light her taper candle for the unity candle ceremony has let it be known that she may not be able to attend do to a custody agreement with her ex-husband that would make her get a week less with the children. We understand that but we have tried to bend over backwards to accomodate her. She wouldn't have had this problem if she had submitted to her ex in writing about a change in the custody to accomodate for the wedding. She is not accepting any of our offers to help instead telling us to change our wedding date when we can not do that do to things being paid for and it possibly messing up time for any alterations needed to be made to any of the dresses. Another factor of this problem is that we may lose another of Addie's bridesmaids and a flowergirl. The reason for this is that they are her sisters positions in the wedding and if her biological mother doesn't come neither do they. These are our problems but we also have had some good things happen.
First we finished our marriage counceling and our pastor even gave us wedding rundowns to figure out what we wanted before having our final meeting with him at the end of may to finalize the ceremony itself. Secondly two of the bridesmaids dresses have arrived. We also bought the flower girl dresses and the ringbearers button-up. In addition we bought our wedding cake topper, my dress pants and mailed off wedding invitations. We bought more flowers and have found the flowers for the flower girl. We have priced unity candle, serving set and toasting flutes as well as flowergirl baskets, ringbearer pillow, Addie's dress pants. We also finalized our reception area. Other than needing to figure out how much food and drink to buy, paying off reception area and church there is not alot left to buy. I'll post pictures with the next blog. For now though I'll leave you with a photo of the flower girl dress. Enjoy and Thanks for reading.
ON a side note we are moving apartments so that is what our latest excitement is all about. :) :D
