Luckily nothing major happened badly this time around such as problems with bridesmaids or medical. But we did see Addie's college graduation this weekend, April 14, 2011. I am so proud of her. My heart was beating out of my chest as she walked up to the stage and across it to join the ranks of college graduates. I couldn't be more proud of her. It was one of the happiest days of my life.
We did decide that if something happens and the third bridesmaid can't come we will let our friend Sterling stand with Addie. He and his fiancee offered which was so nice. We haven't worked on our on our wedding program but we still have a few weeks. Secondly all of our bridesmaids dresses are in, Addie has her dress pants and we recently bought our unity candle.
We have made a couple of payments on our reception area, paid off our church. We finalized the reception menu including the cake. We have almost all of the church music finalized. We still need to buy my ring, the ring bearer pillow, the flower girl basket, serving set and toasting flutes, flower girl flowers, finish paying off the reception area. We also still need to get my shoes and both of our undergarments. We still have to make our bouqets and flower arrangements and buy our gems for the reception as well as the plates and such for the reception.
I can see the end of the tunnel of the wedding but I also feel like I'm having to make compromises on what I want including to afford a honeymoon and pay for my car that needs to be fixed.
Well not much left to say so until later.
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Wow - Too Long Between Posts
Okay Wow it has been too long since my last post. I have reasons I promise.
First I didnt have enough to say for a blog, then I wasn't inspired to write which if you really know me is a problem I face a lot. I love writing but I love writing eloquently. I love to write scripts, stories and this blog but not the same old drab every time so I put off writing it. Then of course life had to step in the way and say ha, effectively taking the time away from me to write. Sure I could have written some but it would have been short burst and all I really wanted to do was lay around as much as possible. See I had surgery to remove 2 of 4 lumps in my left breast. I am fine and they were found to be benign fibroadenomas. They plan to watch the other two lumps.
This was necessary for me to have done because they were large and very painful. But I think they were good for Addie's and my relationship as well. It tested us and we came through swimmingly. See last time I had lumps removed a few years ago I depended on my sister and mom to keep me calm and it went well but this time was much better. Addie really helped me stay calm enough that I was able to get an IV without freaking out she held my hand and talked to me and just reminded me that no matter what happened she was there for me. It was so good to know that I had someone who wasn't family and wasn't required to be there for me but someone who wanted to be there for me because that person loved me without question. I know that when we have kids, if I do get pregnant one day - she will be my Rock in that situation just as she was in this situation and is in our lives everyday. This experience was also good for us in another situation. She had to trust my mom to take good care of me and trust me not to push the limits. I had to trust her to remain cool and not worry about me to the point of it affecting her final semester of school or her work life. We came through those challenges as well, not without a few arguments about not letting her know I was okay and me feeling like an invalid. But at the end of it all we were able to talk these out and I really think we are closer because of the whole experience. It allowed us to see other sides of each other. I love her so much and can not wait until our vows.
So now onto what you really came to read about - the wedding. We have gotten what seems like alot to us done. We have also come across a few problems. First the problems: one of Addie's bridesmaids has backed out for unknown reasons and left a hole in her side of the wedding party. We have found a replacement luckily in our friend Dren barring any complications that could come up with travel plans. Secondly, Addie's adoptive parents have put their foot down and will not be attending the wedding going as far as to say they do not even want an invite. We are sending one anyway so they can not hold it against us in 20 years or whenever. Thirdly her biological mother who we wanted to light her taper candle for the unity candle ceremony has let it be known that she may not be able to attend do to a custody agreement with her ex-husband that would make her get a week less with the children. We understand that but we have tried to bend over backwards to accomodate her. She wouldn't have had this problem if she had submitted to her ex in writing about a change in the custody to accomodate for the wedding. She is not accepting any of our offers to help instead telling us to change our wedding date when we can not do that do to things being paid for and it possibly messing up time for any alterations needed to be made to any of the dresses. Another factor of this problem is that we may lose another of Addie's bridesmaids and a flowergirl. The reason for this is that they are her sisters positions in the wedding and if her biological mother doesn't come neither do they. These are our problems but we also have had some good things happen.
First we finished our marriage counceling and our pastor even gave us wedding rundowns to figure out what we wanted before having our final meeting with him at the end of may to finalize the ceremony itself. Secondly two of the bridesmaids dresses have arrived. We also bought the flower girl dresses and the ringbearers button-up. In addition we bought our wedding cake topper, my dress pants and mailed off wedding invitations. We bought more flowers and have found the flowers for the flower girl. We have priced unity candle, serving set and toasting flutes as well as flowergirl baskets, ringbearer pillow, Addie's dress pants. We also finalized our reception area. Other than needing to figure out how much food and drink to buy, paying off reception area and church there is not alot left to buy. I'll post pictures with the next blog. For now though I'll leave you with a photo of the flower girl dress. Enjoy and Thanks for reading.
ON a side note we are moving apartments so that is what our latest excitement is all about. :) :D
First I didnt have enough to say for a blog, then I wasn't inspired to write which if you really know me is a problem I face a lot. I love writing but I love writing eloquently. I love to write scripts, stories and this blog but not the same old drab every time so I put off writing it. Then of course life had to step in the way and say ha, effectively taking the time away from me to write. Sure I could have written some but it would have been short burst and all I really wanted to do was lay around as much as possible. See I had surgery to remove 2 of 4 lumps in my left breast. I am fine and they were found to be benign fibroadenomas. They plan to watch the other two lumps.
This was necessary for me to have done because they were large and very painful. But I think they were good for Addie's and my relationship as well. It tested us and we came through swimmingly. See last time I had lumps removed a few years ago I depended on my sister and mom to keep me calm and it went well but this time was much better. Addie really helped me stay calm enough that I was able to get an IV without freaking out she held my hand and talked to me and just reminded me that no matter what happened she was there for me. It was so good to know that I had someone who wasn't family and wasn't required to be there for me but someone who wanted to be there for me because that person loved me without question. I know that when we have kids, if I do get pregnant one day - she will be my Rock in that situation just as she was in this situation and is in our lives everyday. This experience was also good for us in another situation. She had to trust my mom to take good care of me and trust me not to push the limits. I had to trust her to remain cool and not worry about me to the point of it affecting her final semester of school or her work life. We came through those challenges as well, not without a few arguments about not letting her know I was okay and me feeling like an invalid. But at the end of it all we were able to talk these out and I really think we are closer because of the whole experience. It allowed us to see other sides of each other. I love her so much and can not wait until our vows.
So now onto what you really came to read about - the wedding. We have gotten what seems like alot to us done. We have also come across a few problems. First the problems: one of Addie's bridesmaids has backed out for unknown reasons and left a hole in her side of the wedding party. We have found a replacement luckily in our friend Dren barring any complications that could come up with travel plans. Secondly, Addie's adoptive parents have put their foot down and will not be attending the wedding going as far as to say they do not even want an invite. We are sending one anyway so they can not hold it against us in 20 years or whenever. Thirdly her biological mother who we wanted to light her taper candle for the unity candle ceremony has let it be known that she may not be able to attend do to a custody agreement with her ex-husband that would make her get a week less with the children. We understand that but we have tried to bend over backwards to accomodate her. She wouldn't have had this problem if she had submitted to her ex in writing about a change in the custody to accomodate for the wedding. She is not accepting any of our offers to help instead telling us to change our wedding date when we can not do that do to things being paid for and it possibly messing up time for any alterations needed to be made to any of the dresses. Another factor of this problem is that we may lose another of Addie's bridesmaids and a flowergirl. The reason for this is that they are her sisters positions in the wedding and if her biological mother doesn't come neither do they. These are our problems but we also have had some good things happen.
First we finished our marriage counceling and our pastor even gave us wedding rundowns to figure out what we wanted before having our final meeting with him at the end of may to finalize the ceremony itself. Secondly two of the bridesmaids dresses have arrived. We also bought the flower girl dresses and the ringbearers button-up. In addition we bought our wedding cake topper, my dress pants and mailed off wedding invitations. We bought more flowers and have found the flowers for the flower girl. We have priced unity candle, serving set and toasting flutes as well as flowergirl baskets, ringbearer pillow, Addie's dress pants. We also finalized our reception area. Other than needing to figure out how much food and drink to buy, paying off reception area and church there is not alot left to buy. I'll post pictures with the next blog. For now though I'll leave you with a photo of the flower girl dress. Enjoy and Thanks for reading.
ON a side note we are moving apartments so that is what our latest excitement is all about. :) :D
Sunday, February 20, 2011
More to do and More Done
Well it has only been almost 3 weeks since my last update. We have done a lot it seems even though we really haven’t I don’t think. We’ve finalized the wedding party, dresses, rings, and my top.
For my part of the wedding party, we have Brandi, Sasha and Katie. For her wedding party we have Jess, Hannah and Mykayla. Our flower girls will be Jazmyn and Autumn. Our ring bearer will be Bryson.
We have also chosen the dress and the color. This is the dress, in Capri. We ordered Sasha’s dress and will have to order my sisters in a few weeks. Luckily they are both paying us back so that’s all good. Her dress will be available May 12th. So I’m hoping ordering my sisters a week and a half later won’t put it here that much later. We spent 141 and some change on the dress. So our spending is going up haha.
Addie and I are going to go look at the tux pants this week if we can get some free time. We will also make sure what color tie and vest to get her and her crew. We bought my corset top and it arrived this week. I love the way I look in it and how beautiful it is. My sister/maid of honor is trying to convince me to wear a veil but I haven’t committed to that route yet since I’m not sure how it will look on me.
We found out we’ll have to order our flower girls dresses in the next month or two so that they will be here in time. I’m hoping we can find something we like for relatively cheap. We will order the petals soon enough too. I think we are going to buy at least two more things of flowers just to be sure we have enough for boutonnieres and bouquets.
We have been searching for a cake topper that we both will enjoy but so far no luck that isn’t too expensive. I also bought Addie’s wedding ring but she has yet to see it. It is beautiful and being resized at this moment. I will have it on the 4th. We are looking into her co-worker/cop making our wedding cake. We are also planning to call our second choice reception hall tomorrow. We are going to confirm with our family friend about doing small foods such as pinwheels to have.
Our first marriage counseling meeting with the pastor is tomorrow at 5pm. I’m looking forward to it but also nervous since I’m not exactly sure how it will go. After looking at our checklist there is still a lot to be done but also not too much.
Well until the next update enjoy.
For my part of the wedding party, we have Brandi, Sasha and Katie. For her wedding party we have Jess, Hannah and Mykayla. Our flower girls will be Jazmyn and Autumn. Our ring bearer will be Bryson.
We have also chosen the dress and the color. This is the dress, in Capri. We ordered Sasha’s dress and will have to order my sisters in a few weeks. Luckily they are both paying us back so that’s all good. Her dress will be available May 12th. So I’m hoping ordering my sisters a week and a half later won’t put it here that much later. We spent 141 and some change on the dress. So our spending is going up haha.
Addie and I are going to go look at the tux pants this week if we can get some free time. We will also make sure what color tie and vest to get her and her crew. We bought my corset top and it arrived this week. I love the way I look in it and how beautiful it is. My sister/maid of honor is trying to convince me to wear a veil but I haven’t committed to that route yet since I’m not sure how it will look on me.
We found out we’ll have to order our flower girls dresses in the next month or two so that they will be here in time. I’m hoping we can find something we like for relatively cheap. We will order the petals soon enough too. I think we are going to buy at least two more things of flowers just to be sure we have enough for boutonnieres and bouquets.
We have been searching for a cake topper that we both will enjoy but so far no luck that isn’t too expensive. I also bought Addie’s wedding ring but she has yet to see it. It is beautiful and being resized at this moment. I will have it on the 4th. We are looking into her co-worker/cop making our wedding cake. We are also planning to call our second choice reception hall tomorrow. We are going to confirm with our family friend about doing small foods such as pinwheels to have.
Our first marriage counseling meeting with the pastor is tomorrow at 5pm. I’m looking forward to it but also nervous since I’m not exactly sure how it will go. After looking at our checklist there is still a lot to be done but also not too much.
Well until the next update enjoy.
Monday, January 31, 2011
Next Step
Well it has been a month since I last posted and we have made a few more decisions for our wedding. I’ve noticed that no matter how bad my day is I can’t help but smile when I’m planning the wedding. Even if I am stressing about affording the wedding and reception, it’s worth it because we will be beginning a new journey in our lives together.
So we have been working on asking our chosen wedding party members. I have decided at the time being to forgo asking my cousin since I'm not sure where she stands on our relationship completely and I feel like she is busy with her own life. I have also decided to forgo asking my friend Jami until we know for sure how many people will stand with Addie. I decided to do this because I don’t want any of my girls to buy a dress and then have to tell them oops sorry I can’t have you up there with us. As for her people she originally wanted to ask Hannah and Alison two of her friends but did not think they would be able to and now it seems that Hannah might be able to stand up for her. She has Devon and Adam, to which Devon is going to let her know soon if he can get off work for it. We are still waiting on a reply from Adam. Her choice of Kaysha turned out not to work so we are still looking at possibly four people per side but that will just depend. I asked my friend Katie and Sasha to stand up with me and they have both agreed. I also asked my nephew Bryson to be our ring bearer and he has agreed. So we are going to have Jazmyn and Bryson for flower girl and ring bearer. We still have to ask Autumn to be our second flower girl. So at the time being I have my matron of honor and my 2 bridesmaids but the dresses are on hold right now.
I chose the color I want for the dresses but since one of my bridesmaids needs me to buy her dress and she’ll pay me back I can’t be sure if that is the color that I will get or not. They told me that the dresses are special order in that color so I need to order it at least 12 weeks before and thus it will depend if I can buy hers in time. I love said bridesmaid but she kept telling me we should’ve chosen a darker blue and a brighter orange and that’s just not us. We want elegant and beautiful and to us the lighter tones fit the two of us and are both elegant and beautiful. The color is Capri from David’s bridal and the dress is perfect for my pregnant matron of honor as well as my bridesmaids. It is long and beautiful and flows. I’ll post a picture after I finally order it. We have decided that we would like to white dresses for our flower girls and we have found the petals we plan to order as well.
For Addie’s crew we decided we wanted her to wear black pants, white button up, a vest and tie and them to mimic that minus the vest. We already bought her button up for 12 dollars and it fits nicely so we spent a little bit more money woot. We also priced how much pants would be for the two of us and we were quoted 50 so we will see if we end up going that route. I finally found my corset top here is what it looks like. I haven’t purchased it yet but I will in the next few weeks.
We have also discussed songs for both the wedding and reception. We have decided songs such as entering the church, exiting, unity candle song, my father/daughter dance, our first dance and so on and so forth. We have also decided to do a boutonniere toss instead of a garter toss. We have also priced our wedding bands and will buy those in the coming weeks as well as have begun looking for a reception spot, cake toppers, a baker and deciding who we wouldn’t mind having take photos for us. We also decided to forgo a sit down/catered rehearsal dinner for a more lax dinner out after the rehearsal for those who wish to attend with us.
My sister and matron of honor sent me a list last night of things to do so we are using the checklist to make sure we have and do everything that needs to be done. It is a help to just hear from her about ideas and tips and any help she can give.
Thanks for reading and please comment and give any suggestions or such.
So we have been working on asking our chosen wedding party members. I have decided at the time being to forgo asking my cousin since I'm not sure where she stands on our relationship completely and I feel like she is busy with her own life. I have also decided to forgo asking my friend Jami until we know for sure how many people will stand with Addie. I decided to do this because I don’t want any of my girls to buy a dress and then have to tell them oops sorry I can’t have you up there with us. As for her people she originally wanted to ask Hannah and Alison two of her friends but did not think they would be able to and now it seems that Hannah might be able to stand up for her. She has Devon and Adam, to which Devon is going to let her know soon if he can get off work for it. We are still waiting on a reply from Adam. Her choice of Kaysha turned out not to work so we are still looking at possibly four people per side but that will just depend. I asked my friend Katie and Sasha to stand up with me and they have both agreed. I also asked my nephew Bryson to be our ring bearer and he has agreed. So we are going to have Jazmyn and Bryson for flower girl and ring bearer. We still have to ask Autumn to be our second flower girl. So at the time being I have my matron of honor and my 2 bridesmaids but the dresses are on hold right now.
I chose the color I want for the dresses but since one of my bridesmaids needs me to buy her dress and she’ll pay me back I can’t be sure if that is the color that I will get or not. They told me that the dresses are special order in that color so I need to order it at least 12 weeks before and thus it will depend if I can buy hers in time. I love said bridesmaid but she kept telling me we should’ve chosen a darker blue and a brighter orange and that’s just not us. We want elegant and beautiful and to us the lighter tones fit the two of us and are both elegant and beautiful. The color is Capri from David’s bridal and the dress is perfect for my pregnant matron of honor as well as my bridesmaids. It is long and beautiful and flows. I’ll post a picture after I finally order it. We have decided that we would like to white dresses for our flower girls and we have found the petals we plan to order as well.
For Addie’s crew we decided we wanted her to wear black pants, white button up, a vest and tie and them to mimic that minus the vest. We already bought her button up for 12 dollars and it fits nicely so we spent a little bit more money woot. We also priced how much pants would be for the two of us and we were quoted 50 so we will see if we end up going that route. I finally found my corset top here is what it looks like. I haven’t purchased it yet but I will in the next few weeks.
We have also discussed songs for both the wedding and reception. We have decided songs such as entering the church, exiting, unity candle song, my father/daughter dance, our first dance and so on and so forth. We have also decided to do a boutonniere toss instead of a garter toss. We have also priced our wedding bands and will buy those in the coming weeks as well as have begun looking for a reception spot, cake toppers, a baker and deciding who we wouldn’t mind having take photos for us. We also decided to forgo a sit down/catered rehearsal dinner for a more lax dinner out after the rehearsal for those who wish to attend with us.
My sister and matron of honor sent me a list last night of things to do so we are using the checklist to make sure we have and do everything that needs to be done. It is a help to just hear from her about ideas and tips and any help she can give.
Thanks for reading and please comment and give any suggestions or such.
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